The illusion of sexual power and its stronghold on the male psyche.

One of the biggest takeaways from the sexual revolution was the focus on Women's empowerment, and Male rehabilitation. A large component of this rehabilitation was concerned with not objectifying Women, and also respecting Womens choices. 

What was was missing was a look into a prominent hyper-macho, male virtue that there is value in being able to perform well sexually, and there is value in having many partners, many different examples of sexual experience, or any sexual experience at all. 

This pathological, mythical male virtue is so prominent in our culture, it has almost become custom. This custom is found all around the globe, from recorded history to the modern World. Today it's found in many different facets of everyday life, it's found in music, its found in the idolization of the "player" figure, and its one of the key components in the "Alpha Male" philosophy.  

Historically and presently, there is no evidence that those who possess or possessed sexual prowess have progressed our civilization foward any more so than those who haven't.

There is also no scientific evidence that those who possess sexual experience and prowess have better mental and physical health than those who don't. There is an exception to this. A potential deterrent to good health from someone with limited or no sexual experience can come from external sources in our culture: from embarrassment, humiliation and feelings of inadequacy, from peers, partners, and often popular media. Are these reasons proof that the problem lies in the lack of experience itself, or the problem is in the reaction to it, from society, from a partner, or even from the inexperienced person themself? Are there people with limited to no sexual experience who see themself as accomplished, confident and "Manly" as those who have it? If so, where is their representation, or the promotion of the virtuous value of their choice in popular culture? We do however, have "the 40 year old virgin", as a comedic punchline strong enough to form the premise of a movie. Why do we find that concept something to laugh at? Why is there a culture of "incels", people who feel they have to aggressively, and often disrespectfully weild their virginity against others? 

If we are look at sex as a commodity from a business framework, or as sex as the basis for a formal artistic institution, then experience and performance would be legit. For some people, it's a source of personal pride. In the field of sex work, it's certainly legit. In love however, it means nothing. Love isn't dependent on sexual prowess or experience. Sex is but one thread of pleasure in the endless, infinite fabric of satisfaction that love encompasses.