Love has 3 parts to it: affection, trust, respect.

Respect is the foundation of love. One can respect someone and not love them. I differ from the philosophy of "you have to earn my respect". I respect everyone by default. People may take actions to lose respect, but it's always there. For instance, I respect the US justice system, regardless of whether I consider the laws just or not. I respect it because there are legitimate and very real consequences for not adhering to it. 

Trust is also default, but its more limited in scope, and it requires going through more doors to unpack. One can trust someone in the small capacity they share, such as in business, one can trust that a colleague will finish their work, but it may not extend past the business paradigm. 

Affection, however is the aspect most associated with our modern understanding of love. Affection comes in many forms, romantic affection, affection from a family member, affection from a friend, or just emotional affection overall. I carry emotional affection for everyone by default, that's the essence of empathy, but it's shown and used sparingly. For me to transcend default affection towards someone requires a strong showing and feeling of respect and trust that motivates me to move forward. 

Love isn't all hugs and kisses or hallmark cards, love is also the feeling of working together towards a common goal for the goodwill of the whole. 

Love

Gettin old?

They say that Men always look sex first. I wonder if that theory has a shelf life? I find myself at 40 to the point where I won't even be attracted in a sexual way unless one first becomes the type of good friend that I'm eager to kick it with the most out of all my friends. How they look is a distant second.

Needy and proud of it.

I'm needy and proud of it!!! 

In order for me to be attracted to a Woman to want to have sex or a relationship with her, we have to have chemistry, but that's not enough, we also:

- Have to build a long period of friendship and companionship to where we can't get enough of each other's presence.

- Have to show vulnerability and need. I have to see her vulnerable side and she has to express the need for me, and only me to fulfill something she's missing, I have to feel wanted, and vice versa.

I know needy is a bad word nowadays, but so is impotence. If I'm not able to get aroused because our relationship doesn't satisfy those conditions, what's the use of continuing?